Studies has revealed that average Brit has sex around 5,778 times before they die.
Whether that seems “a little or a lot” is totally your business, but one thing is for sure – “dry spells” happen to even the most libidinous of people.
Whatever is the story behind your bedroom , a lack of sex will have effect and influence on your body and general psyche.
1. YOU LOSE YOUR SEX DESIRE
Yes, when it comes to your libido, pretty much is a case of “use it or lose it“.
“For some people who refrain from sex, they begin to feel more sluggish, with less passion and hunger for sex,” Sari Cooper, LCSW, certified sex therapist.
“Out of sight, out of mind – this is how some of my clients describe the scenario.”
However, this is not the case for everyone. When some people have the so called “dry season” , they find it even more desire for sex.
2. YOUR VAGINAL WALLS MAY WEAKEN
This is mainly for the women entering menopause.
Sari explains, “Without regular frequency of intercourse as you get older the walls of your vagina thin out and can lead to painful sex when you finally get back to track.”
For that purpose, the “North American Menopause Society” strongly recommend having regular penetrative sex to help vaginal health during menopause.
3. YOU MAY EXPERIENCE LOSS OF LUBRICATION
Another side-effect which applies mainly for the older women, is that the vagina will struggle to get lubricated when you start having intercourse after a longer break.
The reason why this happens, as well as thinning of the vagina walls, is a lack of the hormone called oestrogen.
“If you take a young woman who’s 20 or 30 years old she’s going to have plenty of oestrogen around to make sure those tissues stay healthy, elastic, and lubricated when she’s not having sex,” explains Dr.Lauren Streicher.
“If you take someone who’s 60 and has no estrogen, she has lost that piece of it.”
To mitigate the combined effects of a lack of sex and ageing, Sari advises the following:
“The vaginal lubrication lessens with age, and if you’re not being turned on through self-pleasure, erotic books, videos, or a partner, the juice can begin to lessen more quickly.”
4. YOUR PERIOD MAY GET WORSE
Undeniably, it’s women who are coming worse off.
It may seem counter-intuitive, but having sex during your period can reduce menstrual cramp.
“The uterus is a muscle and many women will actually have a uterine contraction when they orgasm, which will cause the blood to expel more quickly, which will in turn decrease menstrual cramps” Dr Streicher explains.
“Also, there may be an increase in endorphin’s, which also will help with reduce of the menstrual cramps“.
5. HOWEVER – YOU LESSEN YOUR RISK OF CATCHING A UTI
And finally, the silver lining.
Unsurprisingly, not only do you dramatically decrease your chances of being infected with an STD (sexually transmitted diseases), but also UTI’s (urinary tract infection) too.
Because of the spread of bacteria which can occur “It’s intercourse that’s responsible for potentially increasing the risk of recurrent bladder infections” says Dr Streicher.
Eighty percent of UTI’s in premenopausal women occur within 24 hours of having sex, and as the journal American Family Physician stated, “Frequency of sexual intercourse is the strongest predictor of recurrent urinary tract infections“.
6. YOUR STRESS INTENSIFIES
Sexual release is one of natures natural stress relievers. Without this necessary release, your negative feelings may fester and cause stress to manifest. Whether you experience headaches, lack of sleep, difficulty eating or the realistic dreaming, these are all stress signals our bodies use to alert us to a need for change. Listening to your body is the key to living a long happy life.
7. YOUR IMMUNE SYSTEM WEAKENS
Your immune system is built to fight off germs. Having a weak immune system can lead to all sorts of health problems. The most common being the common cold and flu viruses, and sex actually strengthens our immune systems by boosting the Immunoglobulin chemical, increasing your ability to fight off and avoid sickness altogether! This study shows how the immune system reacts to sexual activity.
8. YOU ARE MORE SELF CONSCIOUS
Feelings of happiness, or acceptance also come from chemical reactions in the brain. When you experience sexual activity you release chemicals that make you feel amazing. By not allowing your body to receive this natural release you become chemically imbalanced. Leaving you feeling depressed and less confident than you normally would. This isn’t the case for everyone but for people who have experienced the contrast, it might ring true.