“Men themselves have wondered. What they see in me. They try so much. But they can’t touch. My inner mystery
…. I’m a woman. Phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, That’s me.”
Maya Angelou’s poem Phenomenal Woman is an ode to all the strong women in the world. It exudes confidence and oozes charm, just like the wonderful women who turn heads. She is not afraid of being alone because she finds solace in solitude, so if you are in love with her, you’ve got to understand and respect her. She knows her worth and will not settle for less ever. If you don’t treat her good, she’ll bid goodbye.
Here are things that will turn off any strong woman:
1. You cannot disrespect her. EVER.
“Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” ― Roy T. Bennett
Respect is the most important thing in any relationship, and a strong woman won’t have it any other way. She listens to everyone and values their opinion, even if she does not agree with them. So, if you disrespect her or anyone else’s opinion, it shows your lack of understanding. On her first, date she will notice minute details like how you treat the waiters, the cab driver or the security guard, and if she sees that it is not as she had expected, then she’ll vanish in no time.
2. Try to dominate her and she will open the door for you
Sounded harsh, didn’t it? But to a strong woman, equality is everything. She despises gender stereotyping and will not tolerate it. Don’t think even for a moment that she is submissive and will fulfill all your demands because you feel entitled being a man (patriarchy is redundant to her). So you can expect her to cross oceans for you if you do the same, and if you don’t she won’t even cross a puddle!
3. Manipulation will not transform her magically
She is a strong willed and independent woman who has certain boundaries that you better not break. You cannot manipulate her to extract a ‘yes’ from her ‘no’. She will leave no stone unturned to do things for you, provided it does not jeopardize her freedom. If you coax her to do something that she does not like, you are basically triggering her to call it an end. You cannot subjugate her.
4. Not valuing her words
Some people just listen to reply and not understand. Then there are arrogant or ignorant people who do not want to hear what others have to say because they feel they know everything. If you’re one of them, hard luck, because an intelligent woman knows the value of her words and would expect you to pay attention. She is always upgrading herself by listening and learning new things. If you can’t do the same, you have no place in her life.
5. Not supporting her goals and ambitions
She’s a woman with big dreams and works really hard to achieve them. If you cannot support or motivate her, do not pull her down because then you are just a toxic person to them. If you don’t believe in her abilities, she will not be able to grow and the relationship cannot thrive on negativity.
6. You have no idea how to express your emotions
A strong woman wants a man who will make her feel special, someone who feels lucky to have her. She has her own space and will let you have yours provided there is communication. Everyone loves to be appreciated by their partners, and if you do not treasure her, she will leave you. No one can read your mind unless you speak. Like Lear said “Nothing will come of nothing.”