Expensive outfits, fashionable hairstyles and are not required, in order to be charming and attractive for people. Remember, first of all you must love yourself. Your partner needs to understand that you respect and value yourself. Only in this case he will be able to treat you correspondingly. Somehow people can feel your self esteem and adjust to it. So, if you have it low, people won’t be very excited in communicating with you. Today we have collected 11 unwritten rules that can help you to become a more pleasant person to deal with. Check them all and add your own tips to make the list fuller. Tell us, which tip you find the most effective.
#1. Never adjust to others and try to stand out from the crowd
Do not forget, we need sincerity and naturalness! Do as you think is proper, not as others do.
#2. Do not sacrifice what is really important to you
If you lose motivation and joy from life, then all work on yourself. Spend time on what is really important to you.
#3. Trust your instincts and allow yourself to experiment
Learn which things make you happy and look for them, even if you have to make a few mistakes.
#4. Perceive others, as they are
Stop judging and criticizing people. Pay attention to their positive aspects, and not to blunders. Learn to communicate with difficult people calmly, not through force.
#5. Listen to the people
Just listen and try to understand without interrupting or leaving the topic. Make it clear that the interlocutor is really interesting to you.
#6. Help others
Do not just listen to their problems, but try to help something. Do not be selfish and do something for other people, even if it will require you to sincere or physical expenses.
#7. Appreciate and support the best qualities of people
Perceive them not only as they are, but also as they might be in a better situation. When a person notices that others (you, for example) value in him what he considers a trifle, he becomes happier.
#8. Speak positively and on business
Encourage, motivate and inspire, instead of criticizing or “digging”.
#9. Stop gossiping
Do not talk about others in a critical tone and do not tell secrets you trusted.
#10. Smile and laugh
Smile is the key to the hearts of other people, so try to be less serious, joke more often, poison jokes and tales, generally, amuse others.
#11. Ask, but do not complain
If you need something, then just ask for it, but never try to make them pity. “Attractive” and “pathetic” are not words-antonyms.